Breaking Generational Patterns: Healing with Hypnosis

She came to see me for chronic insomnia, a condition that was triggered by the breakup with her long-time boyfriend, a pattern that has been repeated in important relationships throughout her adult life.  In fact, she is usually the one that principates the end of the relationship.

She revealed how she becomes hopelessly and sometimes violently angry towards them. When asked to explain what the partner does to trigger it, she can’t remember anything of great significance. Only that she feels so angry!

This is a woman who should know better, you would think. She is an expert on the human mind - well educated,  articulate and beautiful. But the unconscious mind operates at a deeper level.

At first, she assumed she must still be experiencing anger towards her father when she caught him cheating on her mother. What else could this anger be about, she thought?

Then in hypnosis, she remembers that soon after that childhood discovery, her mother would have fits of anger towards her, often beating her up as a young child, even though she could never understand what terrible things she had done to deserve them. Yet she and her mother were close. They had always been close, as they are today. Mother’s behaviour was never questioned

These beatings had happened repeatedly to her as a child yet until that day, she had never realised how wrong it was for a mother to treat her daughter in this way. At the same time, she remembered her mother talking about her own childhood, how her mother would have bouts of anger and would pick on her by shouting and beating on her.

She was the third in so many generations who had passed on this cruel and brutal behaviour towards those they loved.