Hypnotherapy: Transforming Loneliness into Valuable Friendships

It had taken great courage for Janice to ask for my help. She had been lonely for the greater part of her life. She had acquaintances but nobody she felt comfortable with. She couldn’t think of a single person who wanted to be her friend.

In a hypnotic trance, Janice was able to remember the exact time when she was told how unworthy she was, by a thoughtless and unkind remark from her father telling her that nobody really enjoyed being with her. This was the first of many thoughtless remarks.

He probably didn’t think much about what he had said to his daughter. But from the powerful lens of her hypnotic trance, she could see how that 6-year-old child that she was had innocently believed what he had said about her. Children blindly believe in their authority figures until they develop their own judgment to differentiate between what is true of them and what is not. She believed it to be true, until our first session.

After this initial session in hypnosis, it felt like redemption to discover that his remark had nothing to do with her. He wasn’t a bad man. He was going through a difficult time for a few years and was quick to anger with those he loved the most. He had not realized the damage he had done. This is a constant in many cases of children too young to have developed a critical mindset. They take the words of the adults in their world as the truth.

This new realization set her free to imagine who she could be.

Her new perspective became the foundation of the next step: Strengthening her self-belief and her self-love. I helped train her mind to imagine and experience who she wanted to be. In hypnosis, this means taking on new realistic self-beliefs and practicing them with new behaviors by experiencing them as if they were real. We repeated the process and compounded their effect with strong positive suggestions. She practiced how to make friends, how to be herself, how to express her needs and how to be kind and loving. We reinforced them until it became easy and natural for her to value and enjoy who she was. Her mind learned how to be herself again just as easily as if she had practiced it in real life.

By the 3rd session, Janice felt like a 6-year-old about to go to a party. The thought of being judged wasn’t even on her mind.

She was resetting her life.

She already knew who to call, people who would be happy to hear from her.